corey duffel apologizes correctly

In these times of Louis CK and Aziz Ansari and the state of Virginia, people fret about whether social justice warriors are taking it too far?  Is anyone safe?  Should people be fired and shamed for things they did 20 years ago? What we want is for people to act like Corey Duffel, who illustrates…

she wants it. they all do.

Megan Nolan wrote an insightful essay on eroticizing Ted Bundy at the New Statesman. This paragraph was fascinating to me: One of the more striking aspects of The Stranger Beside Me is how undeniably attractive Bundy was to the women in his life, how they gravitated towards him right up until his death. He had…

incels and ted bundy oh gawd

I recently watched the Ted Bundy docu-series on Netflix and it was entertaining, yeah. Lots of women reacted by writing on the internet about how hot Ted Bundy is, to where Netflix tweeted about it: I’ve seen a lot of talk about Ted Bundy’s alleged hotness and would like to gently remind everyone that there…

selling polyamory and deserving sex

Modern marketing, which is very effective, has its origins in psychoanalysis, decades ago. Psychoanalysis starts from the premise that people are basically full of shit, struggling with ambivalence and inner conflict, out of touch with their real, base motivations, etc. Sex positivity, a modern bullshit story, accepts the idea that there are unconscious influences on…

selling the conflicted dominator on sex positivity

Slate came out with a sex advice column, and the very first question is about feminism and BDSM: I’m a single man in my early 30s in an industry that’s received strong scrutiny from the #MeToo movement. I avoid dating anyone who I may have potential influence over professionally in the near future, but recently,…

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