speak for yourselves, narcissistic parents

Alain de Botton’s The Course of Love is plenty insightful. I agree with a lot of what he’s saying, despite the fact that I’ve never had children and don’t want to. Like many people, he assumes there’s something uniquely transformative about increasing the world’s population. Maturity means acknowledging that Romantic love might only constitute a…

we have tried me yelling that I do not care if she fails all of her classes and lives in a pigsty the rest of her life

For me, a major topic in therapy has been trying to understand and deal with normal people’s unthinking, everyday cruelty. Race has been its most prominent, inescapable manifestation. I’ve also had to lower my expectations of other people’s competence and emotional maturity. It’s bad out there in society (on purpose). Still, it helps to understand…

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